How to Manage the Unmanageable
Resilience is extremely relevant right now. We’re in a trying time and it’s completely understandable if you’re having a hard time coping with it. Lucky for you there are steps you can take to make something like this that seems so big and unmanageable, and break it down into something you can get your head around. Just remember that your MOTIVATION is what’s going to keep you MOVING, and MOVING is going to keep you MOTIVATED. It’s a big circle and if you let it get the best of you, you’ll find yourself spiralling out of control. If you’re on top of it now, GOOD! Keep it that way. But if you feel like you’re not managing well then here’s a few things that can help.
Resilience is all about overcoming obstacles. It’s about looking at a stressor and accepting it. You don’t have to be happy about it, but you can’t deny it. Right now gyms are closed, maybe you’re out of work, maybe you’re stressed financially, stuck homeschooling, WHATEVER. In order to stay on top of the situation we have to ACCEPT that it IS the situation. You don’t have to like it! But you ABSOLUTELY can’t ignore it!
Seems easy right? Probably not. Let’s be honest here, if it were easy I wouldn’t be writing about it. There are some things you can do to help the process though! First, break it down. I’ve read things saying we’ll be on lock-down until Summer (absolutely do NOT take my word for this. I am not a medical professional and have no real idea about what’s going on). That’s a stressful thought. Even a month seems IMPOSSIBLE to handle. But if you break it down into smaller more manageable moments then your head can wrap around it. Think of college. “A FOUR YEAR degree?!? There’s no way I can spend FOUR YEARS in school!” How about, “Eight semesters? One semester isn’t really that long. That’s ok. And after 4 semesters I’ll be accepted into my choice program. So that’s something to look forward to.” You’ve heard of the saying take it day by day. How about applying it? Take it day by day. One step at a time.
Something else our heads are REALLY good at is a little thing called catastrophizing, or thinking things are MUCH worse than what they really are. DISCLAIMER: I’m not taking any sort of weird stance on the virus, where it came from, or any other conspiracy type thought. I am saying (and I’m guilty of this also) that when things started to really hit the fan I had some real irrational thoughts about how this was going to affect me, my family, the business I work for, pretty much everything. I had an irrational worry that this was basically the end of the world. BUT IT’S NOT! Just because I had a brief thought that it might be, NEVER made it REMOTELY true.
So where does that put us? Take things day by day, and don’t give into irrational thoughts. Accept this situation AS YOUR situation, because it is, and then MAKE A PLAN. If you feel like you don’t know what to do or how you’re going to manage, start with today. What do you need to do today? Teach the kids? Make dinner? Exercise? Plan out a ROUTINE and STICK TO IT. The worst thing you could do right now is think about how you’ll never manage in the long term, and give up today. You’ll end up regressing, then getting upset at yourself for regressing, then being unmotivated to start again. If you haven't yet, sit down and PLAN OUT YOUR DAY! Don’t let being stuck at home hold you back. Don’t let your situation get the best of you.